Why so soon?
For over a year I’ve been in a relationship where I was craving attention. Craving text messages because I was top of mind. Craving the words, “You’re beautiful.”
I’ll let you in on a little secret – yes, to the men reading this I’m talking to you – women want to feel wanted and desired. You do that for us, and buckle your seatbelt. You don’t do this for us, then be prepared.
Being back in the dating scene I’ve been nervous about two things being insanely awkward: 1) the FIRST first date and 2) the FIRST first kiss.
I’m happy to report that BOTH firsts have been checked off my bucket list and only one of them was awkward.
First date: Really sweet guy with an adorable dog (seriously, everyone’s online dating profile now has photos of nieces/nephews and dogs – I’m totally loving it). He’s a divorced vegetarian who doesn’t drink often (read: 2 beers per month at a max) and prefers women who dress down and wear minimal makeup.
I almost didn’t meet up with him because I’m the polar opposite, but figured I should not be so judgmental and give it a shot.
It didn’t go anywhere. But, I undressed him with my eyes over Starbucks coffee because homeboy was adorable and had great arms!
First kiss: A girlfriend of mine talked me into joining Tinder (apparently Hot or Not in dating app form) over drinks one night. I haven’t been taking it very seriously, but it’s exciting to get a new match and be told you have beautiful eyes. Seriously, it never gets old.
Long story short, I matched with a guy who grew up close by and was in town visiting friends (he lives out of state now but visits often). We chatted all day and at 8:30 pm he threw out the idea of grabbing drinks.
Shacked up, conservative, Type A Meg says, “Absolutely not. It’s already 8:30. I really just want to take off my make-up and my bra and throw on Grey’s Anatomy on Netflix while I snuggle my dog.”
Single Meg says, “I’m in! 20 minutes sound good? I just have to change and freshen up.”
I’m telling you, Single Meg is sooo much more fun because that was the best night I’ve had in MONTHS!
The whole time during drinks I kept thinking, “I wish the awkward first kiss was with that awkward first date from last week instead of this guy because all I want to do is kiss him and see him again but if the kiss sucks that’s going to ruin everything.”
Long story short, the kiss did NOT suck. It was the best kiss I’ve had in 4 years. AND I’m seeing him again on Saturday.
The first date with a new man after being in a long-term relationship is always awkward, regardless of who ended things. But the first kiss is the true test on whether or not you're really ready to jump into the world of dating. I was expecting the first kiss since B to make me miss the comfort of a relationship that was no longer valid. But, it did the complete opposite.
I’ve now seen what I’ve been missing for 4 years, experienced what I've been
I feel alive again. And it’s all thanks to an 8-hour conversation on Tinder and 3 glasses of Cabernet.